The Chinese Concept of listening - TING
The Chinese symbol for listening is a union of the symbols for ear, eye, heart, mind, and undivided attention. It tells us that listening is not just a faculty of the ear but a convergence of our senses to be present oriented.
It's okay to not have A take on all Experiences in the World
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Imagine you have just got back from a vacation to Budapest - brimming with memories and experiences to share with your friend or a work colleague. And as soon as you say Budapest, the other person gets a cue to unpack their stories from Budapest that they visited six years back. Your off the oven, fresh stories are overshadowed by recollection of incidents and occurrences from six years in the past. How does it feel?
Your answer. . .just ensure you aren't the one shifting the limelight on yourself all the time and making the other person feel so. Social desirability is positively correlated to better listening skills.
Different situations demand a different listening level
The levels are not about being good or bad but about being apt or not to the situation you are in.
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